You are not alone — one in six, or 15 per cent of Australian couples encounter infertility. Men and women who plan and look forward to having children, usually have great expectations. Naturally, they are at first concerned, then understandably shocked and dismayed when there is no pregnancy and baby. For a large majority of couples, their infertility can be overcome
Did you know?
The causes of infertility in Australia are shared fairly equally between men and women. Infertility involving women only accounts for some 40 per cent of all cases and infertility involving men only accounts for another 40 per cent. Infertility involving both the man and the woman represents another 10 per cent. The remaining 10 per cent of infertility cases have no readily explainable cause. These unexplained cases are termed 'idiopathic'.
Common reactions
It is highly likely that you have experienced at least some of these common responses:
- The woman was first to realise that there may be a fertility problem
- The man may need convincing that medical advice is needed
- One or the other, or both of you, feel anger, denial, guilt, blame, self-pity and jealousy
- Emotions, disagreements and other personal or interpersonal issues become magnified
- Indeed, infertility has been called an emotional "roller-coaster". Such emotions in this very personal and private dilemma are normal and very understandable. It is good to know during this emotional time that infertility is not necessarily permanent.
But now you have acknowledged your situation, and sought advice. Early action can increase your chances of a successful outcome.
How do I get pregnant?
Before you can become pregnant, three basic conditions have to be fulfilled:
- You have to be ovulating (producing eggs)
- The right number of sperm from your partner have to be in the right place at the right time
- The female’s uterus and fallopian tubes have to be normal enough to enable the sperm and the egg to come together.
If, after some months of trying, you fail to become pregnant and you need to consult your doctor, these are the three major areas that will be explored.
How soon should we seek help?
About 90% of couples conceive within twelve months of unprotected sex. If you are concerned because you have not conceived you should see your doctor as soon as possible.
Your doctor will assess the situation and suggest whatever steps are appropriate.
© ISIS Fertility 2010
Canberra Australia